Bridesmaids dresses!

Finally, I get to see the bridesmaids dresses on two of the girls that I don't have pictures of on my blog. Ha! Gotcha now! This first one is Mike's sister, Jackie. Unfortunately, the shop ordered the wrong size top for her so it was too small. They are going to let it out and add fabric if possible, but they say they're going to make it happen. I love these dresses because everyone has the same bottom but each girl picked their own top. You can't see the back, but Jackie has a cute little bow on the back of hers and the bottom where the band is.
This hottie is Mikes' niece, Jackie's daughter, Ms. Boss aka Tiffiny. These are my girls! They're in the next room sleeping right now so they don't even know I'm posting pics of them, shhhhh! Tiffiny picked the top she liked best which looks fab on her. The colors are champagne with expresso trim.
Here Tiffiny is showing off her hot shoes. They picked their own shoes too; at first I told everyone to buy brown colored shoes but somehow Jackie missed the memo, lol. Jackies shoes are a beautiful champagne color. I forgot to get pics of them. But I don't care about their shoes; they're paying for them so if they like 'em, I love 'em!

Slowly but surely each girl is going in and getting their fittings. I can't wait. 40 something days left!

Dresses....all of them!

Whew, it's been a few days since I last posted. Well, I took Wendy to the bridal salon and she tried on the dress Missy ordered. The top is a little snug but she can fit the bottom. So the top just needs to be taken out a little. We're good there, the only suggestion I had to make to Wendy was that she order her own dress because of the cost of her having to take the top out seems to cost more than just ordering her own dress in the right size. Needless to say, Wendy is non-conflict so she already decided to keep Missy's dress AND give her $50 on the deposit. WHAT!? It's not my business, but when you drop out of a wedding after you paid your deposit and you know there aren't any refunds, you lose your money, that simple. Plus she has to pay to alter the top, so I would've offered her $30 at most, and if that, to offset the cost. Let's face it: she wouldn't be getting a thing if it weren't for Wendy.

On to my dress, I go to the salon to check it out. It's gorgeous, the right color, but hopefully the right size. I think about trying it on until Debbie (owner) says I must pay the balance right then and there to try it on. Wow. I wasn't prepared for that. I ask her why is that? She says we can consider it the first fitting. OK. How? She goes on to say some salons give you 30 days to pay the balance; basically telling me she's lenient compared to few. I beg to differ. I leave it alone because at the time I'm thinking no biggie. Until I speak to my girlfriend who was married a year ago and used Arlenes also. She told me she tried on her dress numerous times before the actual fitting. She's the go-off type, so seriously, she's going off now after I tell her what Debbie says. And she referred me there. So, I'm going to call and ask them what happens if I try my dress on in Jan, or even Dec. for fittings and it doesn't fit, then what? I have no doubts it'll fit but still, you know what I mean.

I think Debbie needs to take a chill pill, seriously. The economy is not doing well now so the last thing you want to do is lose business behind some stupid stuff, and it could happen.

Everything happens for a reason....

The bridesmaids dresses came in! I love them. They are more goldish (light) looking than I anticipated but that's what makes them even more elegant. So the same day I find out they are here, one of the bridesmaids calls me and tells me she's pregnant. We talk for about an hour because there are some issues that she's concerned with being pregnant. Not health issues, more so HER issues, if you know what I mean.

Anyway, the next day she tells me all is good and we joke about how the baby should be born sometime in July. (Both of us are July babies, lol) Then she bust out, "So you don't mind a big belly in your pictures?" Wow. I know some people have this whole wedding thing twisted but I didn't think she would think her pregnancy would be an issue. I tell her, of course I don't mind, but I am honest with her when I say I don't think the dress will fit her. The dress was ordered in August and it wasn't ordered with a baby belly in mind. We talk a few minutes about the dress and I let her know, basically there's nothing the salon can do but rush order her another dress. I can tell she's really not up for being in this wedding either.

She keeps apologizing and asking if I have someone to replace her; again the twisted minds of some regarding weddings. I explained to her, I'm not calling in stand ins just for the sake of it. She hits me with one last one, well, your sides are going to be uneven, referring to the number of guys versus girls in the bridal party. I exhale first; listen, who cares about even sides? I asked people I am close to, to stand up there next to me. Sheesh.

Granted, she has been getting on my nerves since day 1, actually her and another one. The color of the dress was too bright, not those shoes, not that day, etc..Don't even let me tell you how they are complaining to the one bridesmaid who actually took the initiative to put together a bridal shower and bachelorette party for me. Basically, in a nutshell, I wanted these two to drop out. It seems they are going out of their way to say and do the opposite of everything I ask of them. And then to give the other bridesmaid a hard time lets me know they'd be happy if nothing were to happen for me, since they don't want to contribute their time or finances to it.

So everything happens for a reason; she's pregnant, I'm happy for her, but I'm glad she decided not to order another dress. There was no way to kick her out of the wedding without ending what we call a friendship, so it's better this way. No hard feelings on either side; she made the choice but she keeps saying sorry, she feels she let me down. She did, but not by getting pregnant, that's life.

But don't apologize hun; secretly, I'm rejoicing.

Home sweet home!

I called Mai on Friday and gave them the security code as usual in order to speak to her. A few minutes later the woman who answered the phone comes back to tell me they don't have anyone there by that name. Yippee, my girl is outta there! It's about time! I called her sister after I hung up with the hospital to confirm, and she told me that it was true. I am so relieved.

I haven't called her yet; I want to give her a few days to settle in and then I'll reach out. I just pray that everything works out for her. I'm not even going to bring up the wedding unless she does; I don't expect her to be able to still be my MOH, but I hope, as I said before that she can at least be in attendance. In the unlikely event she still wants to be in it, we are going to have to see what magic we can make happen in order to rush her a dress. The other girls ordered their dresses almost 2 months ago, and they aren't even due in until January. Yikes. We'll take it one day at a time.

Bridesmaids Dresses

I am happy to report that finally bridesmaids dresses and colors have been agreed upon! The top picture is what I had envisoned but two of the girls weren't too keen on wearing the "really bright pink". I brought Mike along with me to the salon to meet with them a couple of weeks ago, and guess what? Mike loved the pink. So, I'm thinking, pink it is. Then Maria, who helped me with my dress, asked Mike what the guys were wearing and after he told her she came up with the gorgeous combo of champagne dresses with expresso trim. I love it! He loved it! So it is. The dress to my left is just to give you an idea of the color but the girls actually liked the separates, pictured above. So each girl will wear the same bottom but different tops in champagne with expresso trim. One of my girls, Mary picked the top pictured above.

All but two girls have been in to the shops to get measured and leave their deposits so we'll see what happens by the deadline August 29, 2008.

Let me just add something: I get some flack from people when I tell them I changed my bridesmaid dress colors. Everyone that knows me knows I am a pink fiend. Yes, I love it but not many others do. That being said, it is my wedding but I don't want uncomfortable and irritable bridesmaids standing next to me because they are unhappy in what they are wearing. I let them pick what they wanted to wear in the color of my choice. Hell, they're paying for it, not me so why not try to compromise? Believe me if I really wanted pink that's what it would have been and the girls would have purchased it, but not with a smile I'm sure. :)

Either way, I am truly happy with the new bridesmaids color scheme and I think it will look amazing with the hot pink flowers they will carry.

I think shoes and jewelry will be the same concept: I will give them a color for the shoes and let them wear whatever jewelry they please. I am not into that matchy-matchy thing so it doesn't bother me if everyone has different looks. They are individuals with style and I want that to show.